My Dear Homemaker
What is a homemaker? According to the dictionary, she is “someone who stays at home, whose main occupation is caring for her family, managing household affairs, and doing housework, while her husband or partner goes out to work.”
Isn’t it possible that any woman living between 4 walls with a roof, is a homemaker, whether you believe it or not? This is how society sees it.
Every job, profession or career has a role in society, and so does a housewife or homemaker. A good homemaker is the strength behind every successful man and is raising the future leaders.
Some people distance themselves from it and make it a non-descriptive lesser position. Instead it should be respected as a choice just like any other career and not looked down upon.
Being a housewife and homemaker is not the easiest occupation on the planet. The diversity is endless, it is hard to give an exact job description.
Tong in the cheek … the advantages are, you barter your time and labour to have a place to stay with food and clothing, and in the same breath you can quit or get fired. There is no old age pension or a retirement package, but the advantage is, you are sleeping with the boss.
Cleaning and cooking are just two of the tasks. There are multiple other tasks a good Homemaker attends to, such as planning and organising all activities the home, always be available and create the soft place to land after a hard and long day.
A Homemaker’s role as a wife or partner is to love, respect, appreciate, support, encourage, adore and desire. A couple are equal shareholders in the household and are a team.
As mother of the home you have to love, guide, discipline, encourages, and nurture your children. Tend to minor injuries with tender loving care, most importantly, guiding and teaching them to be responsible adults.
You organise and plan meals, do the shopping, and do the preparation. In society you extend your hospitality, and lend a helping hand.
To find acknowledgement from society means you get accepted and are recognised as an successful individual. Your standards, actions and behaviour are accepted in the society.
It will mean, I see you, I respect you, you are significant.
Have ambition and always strive for better. Make the time and find a hobby to fulfil your expectations and live that goal. You have the ability to turn an obstacle into a strategy. Any obstacle is a challenge and motivating you to turn it into a victory.
Tend to all relevant matters with love, kindness and compassion. You are the kingpin at home and therefore, take your responsibilities serious.
In fact you are the CEO of the home.
There are lots to do my dear lady, there is no time to sit idle or lazy around.
What is a Homemaker
I borrowed this image from Quora.
I would love to share this piece of wisdom with you. Every homemaker needs to read this ever so often. It is good inspiration.
An astonished husband has returned home from the office to an amazing scene in the kitchen.
Two little children are murdering each other while another tot is garroting the cat.
There is a pile of last night’s dishes and a heap of dirty laundry.
Saucepans are burning, clouds of steam are rising, the floor is covered with smashed crockery and the dog has just upset the litter bin.
In the middle of this chaos is his wife, sitting in an easy chair with her legs up on the table. She is reading a novel and dipping into a box of chocolates,
She says, ‘ I thought that the best way to let you see what I do all day was not to do it.’ ” – Shirley Conran.
That says it all!
A person working away from home spends about 70% or more at the office, and 30% at home. While a homemaker spends 95% of the time doing tasks and 5% is spend as Me time. She never has a day off, on holiday all the duties still goes on and most of all never can she go on pension.
The tasks of a homemaker are endless, but never daunting. You have to have a plan. Time management and organisational skills are therefore very important running a happy home.
Why be a Homemaker
Different options motivate a woman to become a dedicated Homemaker, but it is never a selfish decision.
In collaboration with your partner, making decisions as a team.
Will it be financially a proposition, does your partner earn enough money
You might have a passion for homemaking as a career, from a young age.
Not staying near any opportunities, in a rural area or on a farm.
Children can be an important factor, especially when home-schooling.
Taking care of elderly parents.
Follow a career on internet at home.
Your own reasons.
Advantages and Disadvantages of a Homemaker
There are always two sides to a coin, lets find the positives and negatives of a Homemaker.
Being at home contributes to a happy lifestyle. With good planning and organisational skills you set a tone of happiness.
Less expenditures on dress codes for an office work.
No daycare fees if there are children, or cleaning fees.
All shopping gets done and good balanced healthy meals are provided.
Home-school your kids.
Help everybody to create good habits
Everything is more organised, cleaning, laundry, cooking, shopping. etc.
You can create the specific ambience at home.
Not being able to relying on a second income.
Lack of recognition in public as a career.
Being isolated from the outside world.
Both partners should be in agreement and happy with the situation.
If you are a lazy housewife and nothing gets done.
Stay at home partner can get bored if they don’t have other interests.
Make Homemaking a Career
A good Homemaker know the importance of having a good basis, and there are more to this than meets the eye.
Manage your home with confidence, know what you are doing and know what you have to do.
The two most important elements are to develop the skills and where to find guidance when needed.
Whether it’s cleaning, organising, cooking, budgeting or learning how to make your house a home.
Learning to meditate, even just for 10 minutes, to have a peaceful and quiet moment is a good habit.
Find a way to learn more. Read a book on the subject, ask an expert in the family or take a course.
Planning and organising are the most important skills.
Discipline to stick to a routine.
Be confident in what you do. Confidence comes with knowledge.
Educate yourself. Take relevant courses and keep learning. Be flexible and compassionate.
Be a leader who guides without control.
Know how to clean and maintain your belongings,
Find your strengths and your weaknesses for tasks, and work with it.
Have a basic routine for every day.
Make lists to remember things and know how to priorities.
Learn how to prepare healthy meals.
Create a time schedule and stick to it.
Establish a Responsibility Corner. It will become the centre spot at home.
Have a good general knowledge.
Stay informed of all the latest news to gain recognition at social events.
Always dress neatly and be well groomed for the occasion. Have a funky outfit for cleaning.
Arrange special alone time with your partner, every week.
Take time off to nourish yourself.
Create an atmosphere of warmth and safely. Let Home be a sanctuary and soft place to land after a hard day.
The Respect a Homemaker Deserve
As in any other facet in life, a homemaker has to earn respect, it is not just given on demand.
In the case of a Homemaker the success of her duties are measured by the behaviour, happiness and physical appearance of her family, not the goods they possess.
How to Earn Respect
Appearances does matter. Always be well groomed, Take good care of your skin, hair and body.
Take care of the appearances of the family too.
Dress and present yourself to make your family proud of you. Set a great example.
Get rid of old sloppy sweatpants and t-shirts, tear them up and clean the floor with them.
Buy a red pair of tights and a purple top with a polka dot scarf around your head as your cleaning outfit. Feel empowered and sexy.
Have a positive attitude, be joyful and active.
Exercise regularly, walk the dog if nothing else.
Have a general knowledge of many things and be able to fit into any social gatherings. Converse with ease and confidence on any subject with anybody.
Knowledge creates confidence, keep learning. Read everyday.
Respect your living space and yourself, take care of it as well as you can.
Join a local group of interest and make a difference.
If you follow the pillars of integrity Respect, Appreciation, Honesty and Loyalty you can never go wrong.
Responsibilities of a Homemaker
Daily tasks can be a never ending situation if it is out of control. If you have a plan and schedule that suits your style, it becomes much more easy.
Know how to plan and organise your daily tasks to make the wheels turn smoothly.
The dedication of a Homemaker does not differ from any other profession.
You are also the assistant at home to set the scene for the success of your
partner, in achieving his goals.
Golden Rules of a Homemaker
Have a positive attitude.
Don’t take life too serious, laugh a lot and have fun.
Be proud of what you do and who you are.
Take care of your appearance, be well groomed and dress hip everyday.
Bond with your home, decorate and clean it with pride.
Stop whining, you have the privilege to be at home. Appreciate what you have and be grateful.
Get back in the kitchen, cook your heart out and enjoy it.
Take time for yourself, see your lady friends regularly.
Be the best loving partner and mother.
Have sex, Have sex, Have sex and talk dirty to your man in private.
General knowledge is important. Know what is going on around the world.
Learn something new everyday.
Know what is going on in the business world, learn computer skills, know the latest trends and fashion and decor style, for instance the minimalist trend . It will help you make good conversation and fit in at any social event.
No one is a Super Mum or Partner. You will fail in certain efforts, it is normal, don’t blame yourself. Accept it, sulk a little, but try again.
Find ways to make it fun. Visualise the unthinkable while doing a job, create a little play, select your characters and act. See the fun and laugh your ass off while finishing the task.
The main mission is to create a happy atmosphere and most of all, enjoy what you do.
I would like to leave you with this wonderful creed of Betty Crocker.
Empower with a purpose, my friend.
Until next time, take care!