What Skills To Teach Children

 

 

My Dear Lady

 

I want to start by asking this question, do I really care about the well being of my children? What skills to teach children to become well balanced adults?  There is no training or teaching how to raise respectable children. Where do I begin to understand what is expected of a parent?

What do I teach my Kids Happy children and parent

 

The first thing to realise is, happiness comes from within, you can’t buy happiness. It is a feeling bubbling up from within. The most valuable thing to do, is to teach them to be happy, with life skills that create confidence and make the difference.

 

Skills that will secure happiness in their relationships, skills to contribute to their success and social skills to find a place in society. How do I raise a child to be respectful and a respected citizen?

 

We are going to discuss options how to achieve this momentous task.

 

What Skills To Teach My Children

  1. Skills to make me Happy

  2. My skills for Successful

  3. Social skills to be accepted

 

My Happiness Skills Account

Did you know, all your relationships have a bank account? Yes, it is called your Emotional Bank Account. Whether it is a love relationship, a family or social relationship, all needs deposits. The concept is to deposit first before you can withdraw.

 

How do I teach my child to make these deposits for his own happiness? Respect for himself and respect for others and respect for things lies at the core of it. From a very young age teach them with images to understand the concept.

 

 

Learning with a Picture

On paper draw a heart and colour the left side red making it look full, and leave the other side white look empty. Telling them there is a way to make the whole heart full, by putting more in than taking out. Also use the example of a basin, when the tap pours water into the basin it gets full but when you pull the plug it runs empty.

 

To illustrate the meaning, draw three lines to the left hand side of the heart with arrows, pointing to the red side, depositing into the heart and making it full. Add pictures that show love and affection.

 

Paste for instance images of a parent hugging or reading a story or playing with a child, any interaction that makes them happy. This is the way to make the heart full.

 

 

What do I teach my Kids Dad hugging his little daughter

 

On the right hand side you draw lines with arrows pointing away from the heart, explaining this is draining the heart, making it empty.

 

 

Paste pictures of a child with a crying grumpy face, two kids fighting over a toy and a parent reprimanding a child for being disobedient. Add your own negative images to illustrate.

 

 

This will help them understand the emotions, I have to contribute too and not only withdraw. Teach them how they can deposit into this Emotional Bank Account.

 

 

Being happy, obedient, helpful with little tasks, being part of your team, laughing a lot and  to be fun, showing love and affection with hugs and kisses, acting in a way to make others happy.

 

 

As they grow older keep reminding them to rather step back and think twice before they act or react. A spoken word or deed can never be taken back.

 

Making them understand the concept of deposits.  Before they can draw from this emotional account is important to make contributions.

 

Teach them to be kind, make this awareness a lifestyle.

 

 

What Skills To Teach My Children

Skills for My Success Account

Teach them

  • Success means different things to different people. To accomplish a dreams is success. There are certain rules to follow before you get that success.

 

  • The best thing is to teach them there is no such thing as luck! Only hard work makes it happen. From the outside it might look like luck, but only you know the secret.

 

 

  • A lotto mentality leads to procrastination and anticipation that will get you nowhere.

 

 

  • The skills that form the pillars of success are Dedication, Determination, Discipline, and Persistence.

 

  • Children learn these skills at home by doing chores around the house from a young age, making it more as they grow older. Doing household tasks to help around the house is a must.

 

 

  • Praising for a job well done and a small reward is showing them gratitude and motivate them to do it the best they can. It teaches them responsibility and all the pillars of success.

 

  • Teach them what is work-ethics. It is a set of values based on good habits such as focusing, staying motivated and finishing tasks as soon as possible. This helps to create a good work ethic that will impress. It installs self-pride. When you start a project, finish it, you don’t stop until it is done.

 

  • Get them excited and make them love Maths. At a young age teach them the times tables off by heart, by asking and they give the answers. Make it a game while busy with other things or driving somewhere. Let them challenge you too.

 

  • Lead them to be curious in many ways and let them get creative. Ask them what do they like, how they like it and why? Challenge them to push their boundaries and to come up with a solutions to problems. Stimulate their thoughts with What do you think of it, and Why?

What to Teach my Kids Boy, Reading a book

 

  • Read, Read, Read. Let them know, knowledge is power if you apply what you have learned. It is the best gift you can give your child.

 

 

  • Find interesting books and let them explore. Reading everyday, even just for 15 minutes to learn something new, sets you apart. Mum even you should practice that.

 

  • Have conversations on different subjects and ask them their opinions. Ask why, how and what, and let them explain to you their point of view.

 

  • If they want something or do something out of the ordinary, always ask them why they want it. Discuss it and let them justify to you their reasons why. If they can convince you, they can have it. It teaches them to debate and justify their point and not just demand. This way they will earn respect.

 

  • Teaching them, failing is not a bad thing. Never give up or stop. Get up and try again, this is the road to success. It helps to find the best way to do a task.  Experiencing this will help them grow and pursue their goals diligently.

 

When your kids deposit these skills into their Success Account, completing tasks successfully with effort, persistence and courage, it has to surface as a success.

 

What Skills To Teach My Children

My Social skills Account

We are all social beings and want to find a place in society. Guiding your children to fit into society is establishing their self-worth.

 

The most important social skill, is to develop values that define acceptable behaviour. Being able to cooperate and collaborate with others as a team for the benefit of the community.

 

Cultural norms set the rules of behaviour. Every situation has a set of accepted behaviour, dictated by your society. Develop your own set of values according to your character and stick to it.

 

 

As a home team you and your partner should have established these values before the kids were born. You should know what the family rules will be, and lead by example.

 

Good manners is first on the list. Kids have to learn to be polite and friendly. Never a goody-two-shoes or agree with everything and everybody.

 

 

Be an individualist with their own informed opinion and always be diplomatic in your actions, never dominating or overpowering.

 

When they get older, teach your child to be a good listener and never to talk too much. Listen to everybody and be the last to speak.

 

 

Make your child aware to watch people’s behaviour closely, See how they act or react, their body language, facial expression and posture to name a few. This can tell you a lot of a certain situation without a word spoken.

 

Teach them confidentiality. They have to learn that certain issues are private and never to be told outside the house. Be able to keep a secret no matter what. They have to learn to listen but not to hear it. As adults they will need that.

 

 

Teach your kids to live with integrity. It is a lifestyle. Teach them the meaning of each of the following, honest, truthful, respectful, loyal, reliable and responsible, accountable and to be compassionate. Live a life that is an example to your kids, because they live by example.

 

Choose friends with care, they are an extension of who you are. The best way is to choose friends with the same interests and values, discuss it with the kids and why. Set an example at home when choosing family friends.

 

When having a conversation always look the person in the eye, it shows confidence and honesty, you have nothing to hide. Always address a person with his name or title.

 

 

Address the use of alcohol, discuss it with your child. Discuss the danger of the abuse of alcohol, and how easy it can get out of hand. The social and financial impact it has on a family.

 

Talk about sex and behaviour in love relationships. Set healthy norms with respect at the centre and discuss why it is important. Let the children hear it from you and not from friends or the media.

 

What Skills To Teach My Children

Conclusion

Your kids will be thankful to you for ever for introducing them to all these skills. Helping them and teaching them to master these skills to become happy, successful, respected citizens and a cornerstone in society.

 

If you don’t do it, they might blame you for negligence. They are borrowed to you only for 18 years, make the most of it, thereafter they are their own person.

 

Until next time, take care.

Estelle.

Estelle

Empower to Walk Tall with Pride and Confidence

 

2 Comments on “What Skills To Teach Children”

  1. Thanks for sharing these ideas.

    I like the idea of challenging our kids to come up with solutions to problems. Of course, they will be more motivated if the outcomes are beneficial to them.
    Reading and learning are so important for our development, and if we can instill the desire to learn and continue to learn into our children from a young age, then they will never lose it.

    Asking them why they want something and having them explain it is a good way to stop them from demanding so many things which they are not really passionate about.
    All of these ideas stem from the fact that we need to be spending quality time with our children and taking an active role in their physical, mental, and emotional development.
    Unfortunately, too many families substitute screen time (TV, phones, computers) for real parenting. And in doing so, they lose control over what their children are learning.

    1. Our children are the future, and we, the parents, have to make sure their lives will enhance and give them a quality lifestyle. Gone are the days of manipulation, indoctrination and brainwashing.
      In the new millennium, if you can’t think for yourself and make your own decisions you will be lost.
      Spend time and stimulate and lead them to have their own opinions and thoughts, it is of the utmost importance.
      Thank you for sharing your opinion!

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